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Empathology: The science of being someone else
If you can see the world from your customer's perspective, you have discovered the secret of empathy
You know that thing Bran does in Game of Thrones?
Where his eyes go milky and he inhabits the body of another person or creature?
That's what makes him a warg, or
skin-changer. It's a useful gift if you are the disabled son of House Stark, fleeing
for your life. It's even more useful if you are a marketer.
The ability to see things from someone else's point of
view is known as empathy. It's a relative newcomer to the English language, adapted
from the word Einfühlung ('feeling
into'), which was coined by those touchy-feely Germans to convey the idea of
sharing another person's emotions. It differs from sympathy, which is the ability
to understand and feel sorry for others. Empathy involves emotional engagement
with someone by temporarily taking over their identity. Not just standing in
their shoes, but feeling their blisters. An empath is someone who has unusual
sensitivity to other people's feelings. A psychopath has none.
"You never really understand a person until you
consider things from his point of view, until you climb inside of his skin and
walk around in it." –To Kill A Mockingbird,
Harper Lee
Empathy is a key attribute of emotional intelligence,
or EQ, which is prized by some companies almost as highly as IQ. If you want to
get on in an organisation, you have to get on with people first. It's also a
component of neurolinguistic programming (NLP), which enables you to build
trust with other people by observing and mirroring their behaviour and
language, including their body language. Coincidentally, functional MRI studies
have found that high empathy levels are associated with 'mirror neurons' in the
cortex.
"Before you criticise someone, you should walk a mile in their
shoes. That way, when you criticise them, you're a mile away and you have their
shoes." - Jack Handey
The ability to empathise is useful not just for
individuals but organisations. In his book Wired
to Care, business strategy consultant Dev Patnaik explains that companies
like Nike, Harley-Davidson and IBM are 'Open Empathy Organisations' that owe
their success to an empathic approach to customers. This gives them an
advantage in identifying opportunities, adapting to change, and creating a
sense of mission in their employees. Relying on Big Data rather than human
understanding distances companies from consumers, so empathic organisations
carry out regular exercises to remind their staff what it is like to be one of
their customers. They immerse themselves in their customer's world like method
actors.
"The biggest deficit that we have in our society and in the world
right now is an empathy deficit." - Barack Obama
“My IQ is one of the highest -
and you all know it! Please don’t feel so stupid or insecure; it’s not your
fault.” - Donald Trump
Not everyone is convinced about the power of empathy
in business. The Yale psychologist and TED talker Paul Bloom argues in his book
Against Empathy: The Case for Rational
Compassion that empathy has its limits, and unless it is balanced by
rationality it can lead to bad decisions. However, studies by the Management
Research Group found that empathy was a strong predictor of ethical leadership
behaviour and management effectiveness.
For anyone working in marketing, exercising empathy is
a way of gaining insight into how people will react to your products, services
and communications. (Insight is another word we borrowed from the
emotionally-literate Germans.)
Recently we've been discussing the difficulty many people
have in assessing creative ideas. It's a particular problem in our business
because we work in a research-based industry inhabited mainly by
scientifically-trained people, who put a premium on objective evidence. They
only trust things they can quantitatively measure, so they can analyse, compare
and benchmark their relative effectiveness.
Judging creative ideas, on the other hand, is a
subjective, qualitative process. It is heavily affected by individual
preference, which in turn is influenced by personal experience and prejudice. The
problem is further compounded when we have to gauge how an idea will appeal to
other people - namely, our customers.
This requires us not just to adopt a stranger's point
of view, but to temporarily abandon our own. The trick is to wipe the slate
clean of your individual knowledge, beliefs and experience about the subject, clearing
your memory cache like shaking an Etch-a-Sketch. Only when you empty your mind
can you fully absorb the views of others. This is a rare gift, even within
creative agencies; we all carry our personal luggage, and it is hard to leave
it at the door when we are closely involved in a brand or project. But if you
master the art of serial identity theft, you can achieve true insight.
Come to think of it, what Bran does in GoT is not that
impressive, as he simply transports his personality into another person's body.
That's just extra-somatic projection. What would be more useful is to occupy
someone else's thoughts and senses - to live in their emotional skin and feel
what they feel. That is true empathy.
The secret of personal fulfilment, they say, is to be
yourself. The secret of effective marketing is to be someone else, one person
at a time.
P.S. If you remain a slave to quantitative metrics,
here is a tool to assess your Empathy Quotient. If you are off the scale, don't
blame us: we know how you feel.
https://psychology-tools.com/empathy-quotient/
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